When you asked her to marry you, you promised to be that man that would OWN HER HEART and to fiercely protect it.
This is the most important and sacred treasure you will ever be entrusted with. Never forget that, and NEVER GET LAZY in your love.
The feminine spirit is about change and emotion and like a storm her emotions will roll in and out, and as you remain strong and unjudging she will trust you and open her soul to you: DON’T RUN-AWAY WHEN SHE’S UPSET.
Stand present and strong and let her know you aren’t going anywhere.
Listen to what she is really saying behind the words and emotion.
Learn her love languages and the specific ways that she feels important and validated and CHERISHED.
It takes courage to fully love, to fully open your heart and let her in when you don’t know i she will like what she finds…
She needs that space to renew and get re-centered, and to find herself after she gets lost in serving you, the kids and the world.)If you want to have trust you must be willing to share EVERYTHING: Especially those things you don’t want to share.
Atrophy is the natural process when you stop working a muscle, just as it is if you stop working on your relationship. If this is the guiding principle through which all your choices is governed, there is nothing that will threaten the happiness of your marriage. In the end MARRIAGE isn’t about Happily ever after. And a commitment to grow together and a willingness to continually invest in creating something that can endure eternity. But these are lessons I am learning and committed in carrying forward.
Find common goals, dreams and visions to work towards. Truth is, I LOVED being married, and in time, I will get married again, and when I do, I will build it with a foundation that will endure any storm and any amount of time.
NEVER BLAME your wife If YOU get frustrated or angry at her, it is only because it is triggering something inside of YOU. When you feel those feelings take time to get present and to look within and understand what it is inside of YOU that is asking to be healed.
You were attracted to this woman because she was the person best suited to trigger all of your childhood wounds in the most painful way so that you could heal them: when you heal yourself, you will no longer be triggered by her, and you will wonder why you ever were.